Preparing for 2021

In preparing for 2021, you may be thinking about resolutions, goals, things you want to accomplish and the like.  However, something we need to give deep consideration to is what needs to be left in 2020.  I’m unaware of a single person who has not been through “something” in 2020:  Loss, disappointment, hurt, health, fear, failure, or grief.  And I’m confident that Letting golist is not exhaustive.  Whatever your struggles have been, it may seem incomprehensible to “let go” of it.  I encourage you to consider  how you move forward with it.  I frequently use the example of grief.  Grief is not something you just simply let go of; rather, you learn over a period of time how to move forward with it.  Many hold firmly to toxic relationships, even though we realize they’re toxic.  Some hold tightly to past hurts as though they’re permanently woven into the fabric of our soul.  However, in every situation we have a choice of overcoming or moving forward.  This is the art of letting go.  The following 5 steps can guide your journey.

Journal what you want to let go of and why. We have heard that journaling is a good practice, yet we often don’t find the time.  Your journaling efforts don’t have to be paragraphs or pages, it can simply be a word.  Remember, this is about you.

Determine where you’re standing in your own way. What are the limiting beliefs you hold about yourself?  For example, “I’ll never be good at that,” or “I’ll never catch a break.”  These are firmly held beliefs that you have of yourself and regardless of the lack of accuracy of your limiting belief, you hold tightly to it.

Focus on your circle of influence. Identify things you have control over and choose to focus on those areas verses things beyond your control.Circle Of Influence

If the whole notion of “letting it go” seems a bit much, consider this instead: “What do I want/need to reclaim?”  Things we hold on to become like cold, wet, soggy blankets; yet, we grow accustomed to the comfort of the blanket.  Even though undesirable, it’s comfortable because it’s uncomfortably comfortable.  What would you like to have instead of the cold, wet, soggy blanket?  What would your new belief be?  What would you like to reclaim?

Giving back to others. Gratitude begins with giving back to others.  Who can you serve?  If you recall from our last quick tip, it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, something as simple as letting someone know you’re thinking of them can be a way of giving back.

I’m not telling you this process will be easy; however, I’m telling you it will be worth it.  Maya Angelou says it best, “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated.  In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still come out of it.”

Best wishes for a healthy and joyous New Year!

-Johnda

 

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